Many families own dogs and certainly many children benefit from owning a dog. Taking care of a dog helps a child learn to plan and be responsible, while exercising and playing with a dog is an great way to release excess energy and keep fit. A dog will also give a child unconditional love and someone to talk to. It is however, important to recognise the potential hazards or dog ownership and try to minimise risks where children are present.
From a dog’s point of view, children communicate very differently to adults; they cry, yell, shriek and run about unpredictably, so it is not surprising that dogs find it difficult to understand and figure our children and even harder to tell them when they want to be left alone.
Research has shown that dog bites occur most frequently to children within their own homes and by dogs that are familiar to them and that most of the child/dog interactions that result in bites are initiated by the child. Educating children is the key to reducing this risk and it is vitally important for parents to teach their children how to handle and behave around dogs because even the most mild mannered and well behaved family pet may react to being pulled around, jumped on or trod on accidentally.
Teaching all children how to behave around dogs (and indeed any animal) should be a priority especially if they will be living with a dog. So here are a few guidelines for children and parents
A child should NEVER EVER be left alone with a dog no matter how trusted or how long you have had the dog. Even if you are just popping upstairs to the loo, separate the dog and the child.
The dog must always be able to leave the room so it can move away from a situation it doesn’t feel comfortable with. Even if your are supervising the dog and the children make sure that the dog can always get away from the child (or indeed any other people) to another room if it wants to.
The dog must have an area where he or she can settle undisturbed when he or she wants some quiet alone time. The children must be taught never to disturb the dog when resting or sleeping. The dog’s bed or crate should be completely out of bounds for the kids (adults shouldn’t be in there either)
Children should be taught to respect a dog’s physical and emotional welfare. A dog must not be teased, his fur or tailed pulled or his food taken from him. They also need to know that dog is not a toy or doll and should not be picked up, hugged, kissed, carried around, or dressed up, all of which can make it grumpy and snappy. It is very unreasonable to expect the dog not to react if he or she is hurt with tail pulls or eye pokes or by being dropped by children. (If you want to dress your dog in an outfit for a special occasion like halloween or christmas and he tolerates it well, that is fine but it should be done by the adult and not the child)
Children should to be taught how to be gentle with the dog. You and your children should not play rough and aggressive games with your dog as this can encourage bad behaviour later on. Do not play fight with each other or taunt the dog to make it protective or jealous, because this tends to backfire badly later if the dog ever misjudges the situation.
A lot of dogs dislike hugging and close face-to-face contact, unless they have instigated it themselves. You need to watch your dog carefully for any signs that he or she is uncomfortable in this situation and if in doubt don’t allow it to happen.
Don’t take food or treats off the dog (unless it is an emergency). You wouldn’t like someone to do it to you so don’t expect your dog to be happy if you take their food away; in fact taking food off the dog is more likely to cause problems in the future. If you want to make your dog safe around food the best way to do it is drop extra titbits in their bowl while they eat or drop some next to them when they are chewing on a treat. (you can contact us for further advice on this)
Reading your dog’s body language
It is really important to learn to understand the dog’s body language so that you can quickly see when your dog is uncomfortable in a situation (with or without children present) and remove him or her.
Dogs may use some or a combination of the above signals to stop whatever is happening and this is why it is important that dogs are always provided with a place of safety i.e their bed, and when they are there, they should be left alone. If these signals prove unsuccessful then they may escalate to other more active signals of communication which include teeth baring, shifting weight (to ease escape), growling, barking and eventually snapping.
Make sure that your children or any children that come into contact with your dog know the following rules:
- Never approach a dog in its sleeping area/bed or while it is asleep
- Never try to take food away from a dog
- Never yell, scream at or hit a dog
- Never pull a dog’s hair, tail or ears
- Always talk quietly to a dog
- Always ask permission from the owner before approaching a dog that is not your own
- Always offer a closed hand for the dog to sniff before attempting to pet it
- Try not to stare directly into a dogs eyes
- Pet a dog on its neck, chest or back as some dogs don’t like their heads touched
- If you are frightened of a dog, stand still like a statue with your arms folded and look away from the dog. Do not scream or yell at the dog.
A good rule is if your don’t know the dog’s name you can’t pet it – this means that hopefully a child will always ask before approaching strange dogs.
The Blue Dog
An interactive CD Rom called The Blue Dog has been developed in collaboration with vets, teachers, behaviourists and child psychologists and is available to buy from most veterinary surgeries and online. It is aimed at children aged between 3 and 7 years old and is a fun and enjoyable way for them to learn how to behave around dogs by making choices from what they are shown on the CD. It also comes with a printed parent guide. For more information visit www.thebluedog.org. Castle vets has a limited stock of these cds which are available for £4.80.
What to do if you have a dog and are expecting a baby
- Try not to change your dog’s routine too much before or after the baby arrives. If necessary ask a family member or friend to help exercise your dog while you are in hospital and once your baby is home as you may not have the time to do this.
- Getting the cot, pram, high chair and other baby related equipment out several months before the baby’s arrival can help your dog grow accustomed to the new things gradually, rather than having to deal with everything new at once.
- There are several sound cds available that have baby and children noises on them. These can be played at a low level in the month before the baby comes so that your dog becomes accustomed to normal baby noises. (Clix – Noises & Sounds – Therapy CD For Dogs)
- It is a good idea to teach the dog to settle on a rug or blanket on command and stay there so you have more control.
- Dogs want to be a part of the family in the same way they were before the baby arrived. So instead of keeping the dog completely away, create barriers with playpens and baby gates, so the entire family can be in the common areas of the home together.
- If your dog currently has free run of the whole house but you are planning to prevent access to some areas once the baby arrives, you need to start training your dog to this new routine at least 2-3 month before the baby’s arrival. Rewards for being where he or she is supposed to be will help enforce this.
- Buy an Adaptil diffuser or collar as it may help your dog to be more relaxed about the changes happening in the hope. This should start a few weeks before the new baby arrives.
- On the day you come home with the baby, the new mum should enter the house first and greet the dog and perhaps have a little play session. After a short while the baby can be brought in and introductions can begin. Hopefully the dog will just ignore the new arrival completely while he or she focuses on the owner that has been away.
- Closely supervise your dog around your new baby and provide calm, quiet praise when he or she behaves properly. This could be as simple as the dog calmly sniffing the baby’s clothing or blanket or enjoying a toy in the same room as the baby. You should praise this behaviour with a soft voice and a gentle stroking. By praising your dog, you are reinforcing that the baby is a positive thing.
- Remember to NEVER EVER leave your dog alone with your baby even for just a minute.
We hope you found our article informative, but please remember that it is intended as a guide to help you make the right decisions regarding your children and your dog. If you are at all worried by your dog’s behaviour around children then please contact the surgery and we can put you in touch with a qualified and approved canine behaviourist who can work with you and your dog.